With the exception of a few guy friends who truly strive to understand us, when it comes to women most men are really quite stupid.
What brings this statement on now you ask?
(Well) I was having a discussion with a co-worker, a guy, last Friday, who asked me why do female writers make female characters always seam so angry or bitter. I disagreed. He went on trying to man-splane to me how I was wrong. I then gave an example and then another but he would not except them. We really started to get into it and I tried to express my point but each time he would talk over me or try to talk down to my examples and or explanations. So what did I do? I did the same thing to him men have done to women for years. I told him to grow some ovaries and then he might understand. Needless to say this pissed him off. So much so he would not speak to me on Monday.
How is that like what men have done to women for so long? For the countless times we have heard things like, “it’s a guy thing” or worst “grow some balls” or even worst still, “don’t worry your pretty little head about it”. Then there are the excuses men use to for bad behavior such as “boys will be boys” and “it was just locker room talk”. I call BS on all of those.
I don’t think men realize how stupid they sound when saying things like that. Most don’t realize how smart women really are and that we see right through this kind of crap. It is not penis envy, it is penis pity. What is between my legs does not control what is between my ears.
I have always wanted a t-shirt which says “just because I don’t have a penis does not mean I don’t have a brain”. There are quite a few sayings I have come up with in regards to this. Another example is what I said about what is between my legs. (I think I made both of those up as they are worded but most women have said it in their own ways I am sure)
As far as my co-worker I just had to laugh. I wanted to ask him why he was so mad and bitter at what I said.
Men have oppressed women for centuries and when we finally get a voice they wonder why we are angry? If that does not sound stupid to you then I don’t know what does. It is not just the oppression, it is the taking credit for our work and ideas, and the inability to value what we have to offer with our different points of view and our strengths where they lack.
It is a proven fact we can multi task better than men do, unfortunately they don’t see it. It is hard wired into our brains. If we go back to the hunter gatherers era, women had to multi task while men were single minded. Men had to hunt and focus on their kill. We had a brood of children to watch over. If we were single minded and focused on only one child the rest of them were dead. It is not like a pack of puppies. After a few months puppies are ready to be on their own and the female dog can produce a whole new litter. We have to be attentive to our offspring for years after they are born. Plus we can bread year after year. One on one breast, one on the other and two trailing behind.
Humans are not able to be independent and live for at least ten years. Heck most people these days still can’t take care of themselves until their thirties, and even then they lack some of the more basic skills, but that is the fault of their parents and society.
I know it is all over social media but I agree when it is stated, “we have produced a few generations now of helpless idiots who can’t even change a tire”.
Personally I can’t sew my own clothing but I can build a house from the ground up and I know how to fix most older cars (pre-computer based cars). I would love to know how to hunt and kill my own food and tan a hide. I am sure I could figure it out if I was cold and hungry enough. I kind of wonder where the cut off point is between surviving for me and well… not….but I am getting off my point.
Men seam more and more to underestimate women and I can see it all the more that we women are just fed up with it.
I really feel like I can go on but I just don’t feel like it. I too am fed up with the male BS in the world.